You Are Not for Everyone, Boo! Wait, What??

This might be one of my all-time favourite realizations: You are not for everyone. And thank goodness for that! Trying to be liked by everyone is exhausting and totally overrated. Yet, for much of my life, I built walls inside the box of "what will people think?"

You know the lines: "What will the neighbours say? What will your boss think? Good girls/boys don’t say that…" Blah blah blah. That box? Yeah, I’m done with it. It’s cramped, and it keeps us playing small—out of touch with our own mind, body, and purpose. It’s like living someone else’s life instead of your own.

But stepping out of that box? Oh, that takes courage. And boundaries. And shedding those deeply ingrained, cultural beliefs that scream, "Make others happy! Don’t rock the boat!"

Logically, we all know we shouldn’t care what others think of us. (Sounds easy, right?) But emotionally? It’s a whole different ballgame. So how do we stay true to ourselves, create boundaries, and live authentically when we know others might not support us?

Try these steps on for size:

Step 1: Accept the Fact That You’re Not Everyone’s Cup of Tea

Repeat after me: “I am not for everyone, and that’s okay.” Say it out loud, in the mirror if you have to, and then laugh at how awkward it feels. The truth is, being universally liked is a myth. You could be the juiciest peach in the orchard, and someone out there hates peaches. Focus on being YOUR kind of peach, and let the peach-haters be miserable without you.

Step 2: Draw Boundaries Like a Boss

Think of boundaries as a personalized VIP rope. Only what’s good for you gets in. If someone starts crowding your space, politely (or not-so-politely) let them know where the line is. For example:

• *"Thank you for your opinion, Karen, but I’ve got this."
• *"That doesn’t work for me, but good luck with your way."
• *"No, just no."

And remember, no is a full sentence. (Mic drop.)

Step 3: Stop Apologizing for Existing

If you’ve been saying "sorry" for things that aren’t your fault (sorry I’m crying, sorry my opinion differs, sorry I took up space), it’s time to kick that habit. Instead of apologizing, try:

• *"Thank you for understanding."
• *"I appreciate your patience."
• *"Wow, you have a lot of opinions about my life…" (Sassy bonus points.)

Step 4: Build Your Tribe

Surround yourself with people who GET IT. These are the friends who cheer for you, who’ll hold space for your crazy dreams and clap when you set those crazy boundaries. And if you don’t have a tribe yet, keep hanging out with Lifeswerve—we’re all about igniting what’s possible and living life on your terms.

Living outside the box is where the magic happens. It’s where you find your purpose, your joy, and your freedom. It’s scary at first, but once you start, you’ll wonder why you ever lived any other way.

So here’s your reminder, Boo: You are not for everyone, and that is your superpower. Let the side-eyes roll. Live boldly, set those boundaries, and be unapologetically YOU.

Now go create that life. You’ve got this.